Saturday, 6 September 2008

Smiles / 笑容


My ever first name card.

In physiology, a smile is a a facial expression formed by flexing those muscles most notably near both ends of the mouth. Among humans, it is customarily an expression denoting pleasure, happiness or amusement, and can also be an involuntary expression of anxiety. Besides that, i found another few more types of smile in my working atmosphere that containing different meanings.

A smile with expectation can always found from your superior or senior when they pass or ask you to handle a little tiny task. Once you have successfully done your jobs, a smile that showing a grateful expression can also be found from them. I think superiors wish their subordinates could help and lessen them the burden. A smile from your superior after a completed task could real push you forwards and achieve higher.

I bet no one like the smile that hidden a sword behind (literally translated from Chinese, 笑里藏刀). Mind you, dont be so naive until you thoroughly trust and appreciate what your co-worker have nicely done everything for you. He/she may have done so with another purposes. This is the biggest lesson i have ever learned so far. Also, apart of doing your own stuff correctly, you have to watch out and make sure you wont fall into the trap in front of you. Even a small mistake may simply spoil your name. Anyhow, even if you are in trouble, dont be panic-stricken but admit your mistake (even it is a trap) directly to your superior. You may get scolded but at least it is worth to see the picture clearly after that.

It is not easy to earn a smile that denoting respect from your workers. They would always have complaints towards their works. Unless you are a good leader having a good interpersonal skill, your workers will willingly follow your command and complete the work for you. The smile of respect can also be found around the eyes. Thus, eyes contact is also one very important element. It is nothing but motivation, no matter how tired i am, whenever i see them smile at me happily after a task has completed, it boosts me up just like the caffeine of cup of coffee. I appreciate their priceless smiles that real make my days.

To be frank, this is only my first month working in this company, in the construction field. I dont mind living up the 8am to 8pm lifestyle temporarily. I am still learning hard at the job site while attending the construction safety course at night. I give myself couples of months to get to know the job, see whether if i could get used to it. Meanwhile, i have to value the current working lifestyle despite the average high salary compared with others. All work and no play makes FuFu a dull boy, so i chase for a balance between my career and life. I miss the days i used to spend on blogging, sorry for not being able to write more often, pardon me for a while ok? I will make the right decision very soon. Just give let me consider every aspect thoroughly.

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工作了刚好一个月。拿了我平生第一次工作的薪水。答应过会每个星期都上来招待我的网友们,但因为工作的繁忙我真的无法实现我的承诺。我打算和大家分享一下我的一些心得,我发现到我的办公室里充满笑容,可惜每个笑容都含有不同的意义。

先讲上司吧,每当他把一些事情交给我处理的时候,他都会很细心的交代或吩咐,充满希望的期待我会把事办好。如果我真的可以帮到忙,他们的工作量就会大大的减少。工作最高心的一幕不是领薪水的那一天而是被老板或上司赞赏,或自己所付出过的努力被敲定。看着上司脸上的笑容,还有最重要的就是从他的笑容里头,我充分地感觉到我的存在很重要。我要做好本份,日后成为他的左右手。

同事的笑简直可以说是笑里藏刀。表面上,他们的却笑得很灿烂,但是我们永远不知道那笑容的背后的葫芦到底装了什么东西。我很后悔没有听朋友的劝告,就是没有要和同事保持距离。人心难测,要随时随地的打醒十二分精神。幸好我平时都会把自己所做过的文件保存起来。那天我要早离开公司去上课,就吩咐他把一些数值填好。谁知第二天我把那个档案开来看昨天的资料有一半的数值不见掉了。我慢慢的把当天的一幕都给想起,把他之前所帮过我的画面连在一起分析。虽然我没有证据,但我对这个人已有了防备。

其他部门的同事不是每个都很冷淡,有些很友善的呢。有一位女同事还亲自的向我介绍她自己。可能因为我去过菲律宾,我其他部门的菲律宾人沟通是自然就会多了个话题,那就是当地文化,佳肴,语言,建筑物,交通,人等等。他们的笑都是感激我对他们的国家有认识。

我下属的笑容永远都是那么地含有推动力。只要你的领导方式好,他们一定会服你。我的下属们虽然没受过什么教育,但是他们的智慧无人能比,他们的心比谁都要真纯,他们的工作态度比谁都还来得认真。老实的说,我是没有什么工作经验,但他们从来没有看不起我这个小白老虎。很有耐心的教我和听我的指示。此外他们还叫我泰语。他们的笑容带有真诚的尊敬。每当我看见他们对着我那么的笑,无论有多辛苦,我都不在乎了。有时还和他们一起把工作做好。他们的笑容可以帮我挡那些藏着刀的笑。

44 comments:

khoo88 said...

Woo.. This time I m the first one to comment in your page...

Bro, it's normal that the more salary u get, the more u have to sacrify. 8am to 8am ? Do u believe I used to work 8am until 12pm the next day with no sleep in between ? But at the end luckily my boss recognised my hardwork and promoted me to senior post. Well, no pain no gain...

帶刺の蝴蝶 said...

好久没有你的消息。终于等到你的新文章了。

祝你工作顺心啊!

还有……
我的部落格link换了,通知你一声。 www.imyingzii.blogspot.com

给你造成麻烦,非常对不起……

ET女子 said...

踏入社会大学是这样的~
人心难测~还是求学中那份真挚的友谊来的纯真!
愿你工作顺心如意~

LZ said...

i'm still studying, seems that the society university is much complicated from what i expected..

thanks for the sharing! can learn more before entering it! =)

all the best to u!

Roses said...

i am stoopid at predicting between a fake smiles by those harmful colleagues.
i guess everyone has their fair shares..wish that sooner or later, i can blend in with the hypocrites.

glad that u have the satisfaction of earning recognition smiles through your work.

=)
take care while you are there.
hope u found other joy beside than working..

Malim Deman said...

Nice blog, your job sounds challenging.

Cui Yin said...

出来社会工作了几年,换过两份工,很庆幸我一直与同事保持着很好的关系,一起打拼的日子虽然苦哈哈的,但我们还是笑声不断,笑容里头不会有虚伪,也没有藏把刀子。。。以后就算离开了工作岗位,我想我跟同事们还是会怀念那段日子的。

我暂时还没机会体验到所谓的办公室斗争,但对于同行的笑里藏刀倒是遇过不少,或多或少背后也被插了几剑呱~我的前上司是个宁愿听信外人讲也不相信她下属的人,沟通上与工作上真的出现很大问题,不信任感一直存在,而下属也无法苟同上司的处事方法,那段时间一直承受着压力与不开心情绪的我离开了。。。那班旧同事都对我很好,教我很多,也很挺我,这是我的福气啊!

现在这份工作,虽然换了两个上司,但我们都一直相处愉快,因为大家都能彼此信赖对方,上司也很放心放手让我自己处理一切问题。所以我常说,离开何尝不是一种好事,我还因祸得福,得到更多更好的。

愿你早日远离是非、摆脱虚伪人事、还有工作愉快!

Chris said...

出来社会工作后,就开始学会了人情世故及人情冷暖。

cleffairy said...

Arrrrrggggghhhhhhh!!!!! THE SOFA! It's gone! Darn! :-S I'm late. Hahaha.

Anyway, Ah Fu, please take it easy. You're juggling between working and also taking up course at night, that's something that I will exclaim WOW for. It's all right if you don't have the time to sit down and blog often like you used to be,everyone here knows that by blogging alone can't make your bank account happy. Go ahead and concentrate on working and take a good rest when you can. Taking a good care of yourself is far more important than anything else.

Keep on smiling that sweet smile, and gambatte kudasai! :-D ( I like your business card!)

Hmm. I must be pretty late checking out your post. Lz, Rose and nenek kebayan is already here. Damn my work! Being able to check out people's blog and writing is indeed a luxury these days! =.=

Pete said...

Wish you all the best in your first job.

janelle_l said...

你那个同事还真下流。。

Nai Jiew Mil 奈九米二 said...

Yaya and sometimes it's so tiring that you have to put up a fake smile everyday just because you are not supposed to be not happy. Haha.

and to a point of time, we will be so immuned to all the fake smile that we received from the so-called 'nice people' and then slowly filter out even the genuine ones..

Anyway, hope you will make the decision that is the best for youself. All the best ^^

Nai Jiew Mil 奈九米二 said...

Yaya and sometimes it's so tiring that you have to put up a fake smile everyday just because you are not supposed to be not happy. Haha.

and to a point of time, we will be so immuned to all the fake smile that we received from the so-called 'nice people' and then slowly filter out even the genuine ones..

Anyway, hope you will make the decision that is the best for youself. All the best ^^

YNOT TONY said...

你终于知道了现实工作中和朋友之间多么的不同哦. 好好干吧, 你是蛮有才的, 他们到头来还是会拜倒在你的脚下...

BeverLy's Secret said...

Gambate!!! I bet you'll have a bright future!!!

~珊姑娘~ said...

对不起,最近不知怎么了,reader那里没显示你有update。。所以忽略你的部落格了,哈哈,还好才错过两篇,我会看完的。

新工作好像还很不错的样子喔,加油喔!
来到社会,大家都是这样的,笑脸迎人,但不知谁真谁假,你自己要小心观察人咯。
如果遇到真诚的朋友,请珍惜喔。

ET said...

如果外星人不穿衣服的照片敢贴上部落格,那么私人资料又算得了什么呢?

工作愉快!欢迎加入 dog-eat-dog-world 的大家庭。

khoo88 said...

Bro, why u don't want to create a message/chat box in your page so that ppl can leave u message easily ?

choyyin forever said...

congrats!!! Sure happy to get the first salary~~ Gambatee

June said...

是呀。。
我的上司还亲口跟我说对同事不要投入
太多的感情,最后辛苦的是自己。。

相信你很快就能适应的

加油啊~~~有时间出来喝茶^^

cc said...

A friendly smile can bring sunshine to someone's life. It does wonders.
First job is exciting, all the very best to you! :)

Thanks for dropping by my blog. Hope to see you around. :)

SockPeng said...

防人之心不可无!!
刚刚在新的工作上班,不了解同事,不要太轻易相信他人。小心为上。

even said...

努力吧~大佬富你咁聰明^^
佢地點奸你一定都應付得黎既!
所以我特別喜歡網友!^^
大家唔會有利益衝突!^0^

Kikey Loo said...

正所谓商场如战场,
自己要谨慎!
All the best... (^.^)

Xjion89 said...

Well, it is inevitable to meet some people with their own agendas. You will be just fine by ignoring them. Wow, your working hours are very long. But, if you have passion for this job, I am sure that you can handle it. Lastly, give you a big smile Happy always(^^)- Smiling is good!

迷迭香 said...

i tot u r going to put up ur smiling face....^_^


Hey, do keep an open heart pls...
not all colleagues are bad,
i do admit some can be really bad and mean! but not all of them... give them and urself sometime and i am sure u will know who is ur fren and who is the ghost !!

Cheers ~

jiani said...

想當初我以前臺灣的同事時時都提醒我。。對人要保持距離。我想他是對的

pinpin said...
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pinpin said...

like the way u write the blog. Im ur new reader now. All the best..

Mei-Wah said...

FuFu,

i am living a 8am - 8pm work life too. although i am not earning big bucks but i am still in the learning stage. i stepped into this working world a year ago and i tried to make myself happy by chatting with my colleague pals. lucky for me, the colleagues (a few close one mainly) i had were true and they helped me so much during my hard times. i truly understand your word "smile that hidden a sword behind". :) frankly speaking, i do not put my trust in my colleagues at first, but as the days gone by, i knew who to trust and who to beware off. i am sure you will be able to know which is the good guy and which is the bad one. but, beware to your surroundings. please don't let this become a barrier for you to look for a true friend. who says colleague can't be a true friend? :)

good luck!

regards,
mei wah

萤火虫*.* said...

好久都没你的消息哦~
加油吧~
小心那些笑里藏刀的人啊~

海市蜃樓 said...

現實的社會猶如金枝慾孽的縮影,就如安茜所說﹕

「做得岩未必有獎,做錯一定有罰﹗」

「有人奉承你,即係有人想利用你﹔有人對你好,即係有人想害你。」

切記啊!

當然也有好的同事(同級),只是少之又少而已。

EmiLio said...

感觉上你可以handle得很好,也还会保护自己

下属之间不懂得勾心斗角,那才是最可贵的,有时上层的往往应该学一学职位不高的他们

双子星 IX said...

工作的地方就是会有politic
做好交代的东西
慢慢学习如何跟下属沟通
工作环境就会很不错哦

- yEng - said...

wish u 中秋节快乐...

~珊姑娘~ said...

lengzai,come here to wish u 中秋节快乐喔!

ang ang said...

拿了第一次工作的薪水,該請我這個沒薪水的朋友吃大餐了吧!哈哈!中秋節快樂!

even said...

中秋節快樂!
大佬富....快d人月兩團圓啦!
即係快d搵個大嫂比我呀!^oo^

Sherelene said...

我知道这种感觉很难过
因为我们只是单纯的想把工作做好

以后做什么都要小心谨慎

在我这一行
老一辈的都说 - 永远不要相信其他同事
所有东西一定要亲手检查才可以

这样很累吧
不过总好过背黑锅吧:P

pui0219 said...

加油..
有一班好的下屬是最重要的...
因為如果下屬不想do,上面點迫都辛苦~
加油~
kiss~
pui sze

爱美丽 said...

工作就还想打仗一样。。。现在的我把同事和朋友分得很清楚。多了防备就少了贴心。。

maii said...

hey fufu~
wow your job sounds difficult by the different smiles :)
and the workingtimes are wow-ing me again. i work from 10am to 5pm and i'm still complaining :D
so how are you doing now on your job, it has been 2 months right?
Is it suiting you more now or has the travelspirit inside you grown more?
:) <- (this is a well meant and supportive smile)
See you fufu!

Feeling said...

working is always related with politic..no, should be related with a lot of politicS..lolz

well gambatei ne! Work with smile, you still will find the world is beautiful.

Everyday is a great day..cheers!

三吉 said...

加油吧。。。
我们都在学习中。。。