Monday, 13 September 2010
FuFu Malaysia Project - I ♥ Malaysia
FuFu Malaysia Project
24th August - 16th September 2010 | Episode 8
FuFu Malaysia Project - Episode 8 : I ♥ Malaysia
I love Malaysia.
"I know, it's written on your tee."
Do you love Malaysia?
"Because Malaysia doesn't love me."
When i was young, my mother taught me to love my other siblings. We have five in the family. Three boys two girls. A big family. I used to quarrel and fight with my sisters and brothers over every little single stuff. Would always end up with luxurious rotan (cane) meal. I had to help my mother looking after our small grocery shop since i was a 9 year old primary pupil. I condemned why i was the first son. Why my brothers and sister could play around while i had to learn doing business. I always complained they loved the younger siblings more.
Looking back now, i am glad to be the first son. I am glad they forced me to help them. I am glad i didn't influence by the condemns and complains. I didn't give up but move forward. I studied hard. After my Form Six, i didn't ask even a penny from them for my tertiary education (because Japanese Government paid me everything including flight ticket and pocket money every month for 5 years). I still love my family. Sometimes, i just keep the love inside. I also know they are feeling proud of me, always.
Pendidikan Moral (Moral Education) is a compulsory subject for everyone in both primary and secondary school. Nilai Sayang-menyayangi (the value of love each other) and others were being repeated to us for almost 11-12 years. But how many of us managed to understand love well? (I am still wandering around and figuring it though. Otherwise, i won't be still single now.) Put the personal stuff aside, because i would like to talk about the love among the citizens. I know it's superficial to campaign with propaganda, rhetorics and songs, and even history and moral textbooks will not help students to develop understanding and love for their friends of other races.
Hence, parents instead play a very important role to influence the young generation to integrate well with all races we have in the country. My parents had a grocery shop. We had not only Chinese customers but Malays and Indians did come to our shops. There, we built up a strong bond with everyone. We talked. We smiled. We loved each other. Because my mother was busy doing business, so whenever the customers were having birthday party, wedding dinner, open houses during festivities, etc, my parents would definitely send us there. Since very young, different kind of cultures and customs were being exposed to me.
Race is colour blind. So in secondary school (from vernacular primary school) i felt comfortable mingling with those of other races while some still trying hard to put in effort to step out of their comfort zone making friends with Malays and Indian and vice versa. You can't blame the education system by having both national and vernacular school. Yet, since we are living in the same neighbourhood, do you seriously take a step forward knowing others well? Or do you know who is your neighbour? It's beneficial to know your neighbour as they would look after your house while you are outstation or going back hometown. During the festive season, you would get free food too. Knowing the celebrations of other cultures also would broaden your narrow perspectives.
Mutual understanding is the key to open the door for love. We are lacking of mubihhah (goodwill) spirit among the citizens. Thus, i beg you all to revive the close relationship once share by our parents generation of all races in the country. Stop locking up your kids but set them free to foster the relationships with other kids. Let's us cross over the race barrier and stay happily so that we could improve the country together.
Most of the citizens nowadays may think they know well about Malaysia, but if you ask them what is Rukun Negara (national principles) and how many stripes there are on our flag, many are scratching head and counting. Are we going to have such generation to rule the country in the future? To stop having immaturity in our politic and avoid having insincere and unfaithful leaders, we need to have a concrete and far-reaching action through education on the kids. From the very early age, develop their interests to genuinely want to learn and understand each other well. Instead of criticising like what i have been mentioning since the very beginning, all should have a keen interest in caring, understanding and loving.
"Love is both an action and a feeling."
The action of love generates a blissful feeling called by the same name. When the action stops, the blissful feeling is replaced with pain. Every person is capable of great love and its opposite, fear, which generates all painful emotions such as hate, condemn, hatred and jealousy. While some of you may confused over the love or your own patriotic, here is some general guides to loving after doing my own little research.
♥ 1 . Say it. "I ♥ Malaysia", carrying your desire to show someone that you love Malaysia, not what you simply want to feel. When you say it, make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for the country.
♥ 2. Empathize. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to critic them, try to understand what is Malaysia, how Malaysia was set free from British, who are the people living in Malaysia, what could you contribute, etc.
♥ 3. Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all. If your interest is not in the country as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving the country's future, or allowing that country to be like that and accepting her as she is (racism, corruption, etc), and not the country you want Malaysia to be, then you are not striving to love Malaysia unconditionally.
♥ 4. Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for the sake of love. Do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way.
♥ 5. Appreciation. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have a motherland to love.
♥ 6. Never stop loving. Even if you have been hurt before you should not stop giving love.
Malaysia is our motherland. FuFu ♥ Malaysia. We all should love Malaysia. No other country we should love more except Malaysia.